Pink Elephants

How does one get past the pink elephant in the room without burying it so below sea level that 10 million other issues pop out? Even though it's painful do you push the person to talk about it or do you just maintain neutrality and stay fake, pretending there's nothing wrong? In our attempts to manage our expectations, what if, gotdamnit, you're just fucking disappointed? Why must there be more of a burden on one person than the other? Fuck. No one wants to argue every day, but is being fake better than arguing? Seems like the same poison builds up either way.